Wednesday, August 4, 2010
A recurring theme in some of my blogs has involved the idea of symbiosis. This isn't just the obvious: top/bottom, dom/sub, hand/butt. It's something substantially deeper and more resonant than that and it's something I certainly wish everyone in the lifestyle would have an opportunity to experience, but I'm not sure they do.
I've been very fortunate to make a few really intense, really rewarding connections in the lifestyle. I've blogged before about NRE and Nonmonogomous Relationships. The symbiosis I've experienced has been a truly amazing one.
Friendships offer their own form of symbiosis: camaraderie, entertainment, conversation, shared hobbies and experiences. Each friend should (more or less) get and give equally to the relationship. These lifestyle relationships include friendship, but there's more--and I know this is also a theme for me: emotional intensity, emotional intimacy, a real honestly and "nakedness" in terms of connection.
Of course, beating someone until they're utterly "exposed" is a big part of it, but being able to communicate, share and experience is an honesty and openness that is often rarely experienced in many longterm vanilla marriages.
I'm thankful of my intense symbiotic relationships and for the wonderful, more casual ones as well.
What are your experiences?