The other day Lizzie and I had an event to attend in which we were volunteering to help. We drove 40 miles or so on a Sunday morning to the venue and were perplexed that no one was there. 15 minutes went by and still no one was there. I started to wonder if the time had changed. Lizzie texted the organizer and much to her chagrin she had entered the wrong date on our joint Google calendar. The event was a week later. She was certainly frustrated and annoyed at her actions and was very apologetic.
On the drive back I thought about a Genuine Punishment. Lizzie needed correction for her mistake. We had gotten up early, driven 80 miles and had nothing to show for it. But at the same time, I knew she had beaten herself up rather substantially in the car on the way back and felt awful. What would be gained by punishing her further? Would she "learn a lesson" or just harbor resentment for my harshness?
(The very seasoned and knowledgable gentleman who provided me a great deal of advice in how to play and how to be when I started playing publicly said that a Dom/top could be compassionate or could be cruel. Which was I? I'd love to believe I'm compassionate with a very sadistic streak...)