Sunday, December 30, 2012

New Year's Reflections

I think about everything that's transpired this past year, much of which I reflected on in my Kinky Christmas post. With lots of badness and sadness behind me (some of which I reported on here) I think there's a lot more to this year than angst, mistakes, separation and divorce. There's so much good that came this year as well.

Let's see, staring the Way Back Machine, we began the year with A Love Story in Snack Photos. I was very fond of this post and thought it very clever. I'm not sure others felt as strongly as I did with it.

In February I "admitted" I'm not a spanko (read it to see what you think in the end...).

I'm a slow reader, so in March I finally finished Erica's Late Bloomer and posted my review.

April brought news of this new book called 50 Shades of Grey and I commented on the trend. I'm utterly fascinated with teledildonics and all that portends, so I excitedly reported about it finally getting out of the dorky R&D labs and into the mainstream.

I discussed another fascination of mine, erotic humiliation in May and shared the disturbing recommendations Amazon comes up with for me in my Prime account, based on actual searches and purchases, of course.

I finally got around to some new kink fiction in June, a lovely little tale entitled Exquisitely Harsh

In July I wrote a post on the differences between funishment, punishment and what I like to call "Genuine Punishment" and another piece of spanking fiction just in time for Independence Day called Pure Fireworks

I wrote about being a dom, top, disciplinarian and master in August

September brought lots of news, ranging from the announcement of my joint blog with Lizzie called Black & Blue, my Shadow Lane party report, the sharing of my year-long divorce and continued here.

When October rolled around, Black & Blue went live and I (along with Lizzie) went back to the Lair, our local dungeon, after a long hiatus.

I described Genuine Punishments with Lizzie in November and described a Silent Scene we shared.

Ending out the year, I've gotta say I'm glad it's behind me, Fellow Kinksters. But I wouldn't have gotten to the good stuff without slogging through the bad. I've made mistakes, learned lessons and hopefully become a better person in the process (that remains to be seen). I'm happy, healthy and just a wee bit wiser by the end of this year and, as much as this year tried me in so many ways, I have to be honest with myself and say I'm glad I went through it. That perspective has changed me. 2013 is going to be an absolutely fantastic year!


Tuesday, December 25, 2012

Happy Kinky Christmas!


Regardless of what holiday you celebrate (or don't), allow me the opportunity to wish you all a Happy Kinky Christmas. As I reflect on the year I think about all that's gone down—my divorce, the stress the went along with that, lifestyle relationship challenges that I've acknowledged right here on this blog that were mistakes I made and wish I'd handled differently, and then one of the greatest things to happen in my life—the arrival of Lizzie to my household and our subsequent maturing of our own D/s relationship and our love.

Those are pretty great gifts. Through all the stress, anxiety, sleepless nights, fear and sheer mental mind-fucking, I made it to the other side. That, my Kinky Friends, is the most amazing gift of all. 

Tuesday, December 18, 2012

It's the End of the World As We Know It

...and I feel fine.

I was talking over the weekend about the Mayans and the idea that anyone could even take the notion of the world suddenly being snuffed out in an instant utter bullshit. Someone I know was concerned that people could go crazy and do stupid stuff (i.e. murder) on Thursday because the world could end on Friday. This kind of thinking is ludicrous (avoiding parallels to recent shootings aside). 

Yes, The Flat Earth Society still exists (how I have no clue) and there are those that firmly believe that the Holocaust didn't exist, but the very idea that our little blue ball can just get snuffed out in a moment just doesn't even compute. 

So as all of you go about your day this week spanking, kinking and FetLife-ing, jut remember that whatever you do today will undoubtedly have ramifications tomorrow. 

Unless the Mayans watched the aliens load some kind of ticking time bomb into the center of the earth, I'm keeping my Bed, Bath & Beyond coupons until Saturday. I still need to get a few more Xmas gifts.

Tuesday, December 11, 2012

Back in the U.S. of A.


Just returned to the land of unrestricted, uncensored internet! Tired, jet-laggy and glad to be home. I'll return to the regularly scheduled kink in a day or two after I've adjusted to the time zones again. Thanks for hanging out and waiting!